That phrase in the headline comes from this.
“…an overly benign interpretation was given to the homosexual condition itself, some going so far as to call it neutral, or even good.”
Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Pastoral Care of Homosexual People, no.3, Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF), 1986
You cannot call the homosexual condition “neutral” and claim to be a faithful Catholic in obedience to the Church. Same-sex attraction is objectively disordered. It is not “neutral.”
This is not just a “rule” that has no meaning for one’s salvation. The reason it is a rule is that one cannot cling to a disorder and Jesus at the same time.
From Courage, quoting the same Letter to the Bishops:
“Today, the Church… refuses to consider the person as a “heterosexual “or a “homosexual,” and insists that every person has a fundamental identity: the creature of God, and by grace, His child and heir to eternal life.” CDF, no.16
The Church won’t put a label on anyone. To say someone is “gay” or “lesbian” or a “homosexual” is to define a whole person by just one aspect. It can lock up a person’s identity and block further emotional growth. That’s just the sort of labeling which gives rise to prejudice and discrimination. The Church stands against any behavior it calls immoral, but always teaches support and respect for the person. Labeling limits and disrespects people.
To label someone as “gay” is limiting them and disrespecting them.
Also from Courage, quoting the same Letter to the Bishops:
“…increasing numbers of people today, even within the Church, are bringing enormous pressure to bear on the Church to accept the homosexual condition as though it were not disordered and to condone homosexual activity.” CDF, no.8
One of the Church’s toughest duties is to speak the truth with love and confront the self-destructive ideas and behavior of any society, and often those societies resist. Our Christian “tough love” insists that God intends more for us than homosexual activity can ever offer. Our long standing Judeo-Christian tradition is coming under strong attack especially in America. Every young Catholic can expect to feel this pressure — some of it even from dissenters within the Church, some of it from otherwise respected teachers or counselors. If you openly affirm the Church’s teaching and ask your friend to question the “gay-positive” path, you will very likely get labeled “homophobic.” It takes courage to speak an unpopular truth, but it’s an act of real love. Reaffirm your love to your friend and hold your ground.
That is what I am doing. I am holding my ground against dissent on the part of my friend Leila who I never thought, in a million years, would dissent against the Church. It is because I love her (and I do constantly try to reaffirm that love), and the person she is disrespecting by letting him identify as “gay” that I am doing exactly what Courage says to do and holding my ground….even though it has cost me employment, many, many friends, and sent me to the crisis unit suicidal numerous times.